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Dr. Lauren's eNews January 15, 2004
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Join us for Intuitive Tuesday Jan. 20 from 7 to 9 am
Once again it's back to WPST 97.5 Trenton/Philadelphia for another
Intuitive Tuesday with the Wake-Up Crew, Mark Vanness & Chris
Rollins. If you're in the Philly/NJ area, join us from 7 am to 9
eastern time.
And if you're outside the listening area, don't forget Dr. Lauren's
weekly column at Cleveland.com where you can submit your question
for consideration. She answers several each week, free.
Have a Knowing Moment to Share? Submit It Here!
Dr. Lauren's book, tentatively titled Knowing, will be out later
this year, published by New Page Books. The focus is how we know
things without knowing we know (with me so far?!). It features
assessments and techniques to understand and enhance your natural
Knowing Style.
If you'd like to submit a story from your own life experience for
Dr. Lauren to possibly include in her book, submit it at her
website. From the submissions--even if we don't use them all--we'll
select one person in a random drawing to receive a FREE one-hour
telephone consultation with Dr. Lauren. Please get your submission
in by March 15th, 2004.
And thank you for sharing your Knowing Moments. Sharing these is one
way we all learn from each other.
Wise Words & Sage Sayings
In these mid-winter doldrums--I was just in Atlanta and it was
snowing just a bit there, too--I have tried to keep my sense of
humor. It helps! Here are some quotes on the power of laughter for
you to ponder.
Against the assault of laughter nothing can stand.--Mark Twain (The
Mysterious Stranger)
Blessed are those who can laugh at themselves, for they shall never
cease to be amused.--Unknown
A good laugh is sunshine in the house.--William Makepeace Thackeray
He who laughs, lasts.--Mary Pettibone Poole
The head thinks, the hands labor, but it's the heart that
laughs.--Liz Curtis Higgs
Manifesting 101: Focus, Make it About You, and Keep it Real
(c) Lauren Thibodeau, Ph.D.
You've probably heard the term "manifesting" in relation to getting
what you truly desire. But to me, manifesting begins with a clear
focus. And here are three simple (but not necessarily easy) steps to
prepare you to manifest your true heart's desire.
Step 1: Focus. This matters. If you aren't clear on what you want in
your life, how will you know it when you see it? So, take some time
right now to jot down what you really, truly want from this precious
life you’ve been gifted with. Think back to when you were 6, when
the world was one of infinite possibilities to help you break
through any “stuck” places. Keep a notebook or recording device near
as you ponder this step. Allow your intuition and impulses to speak
to you. And remember, it’s still a world of infinite
possibilities—you just forgot for a while. Consider this your
wake-up call!
Step 2: Make it about YOU. Many people find they focus on others
when manifesting. It’s hard not to when you have compassion for
others. But to manifest well, you must make your life's dreams about
YOU, not your spouse, parents, friends, kids or clients. Desiring on
"a successful business" makes sense, but if your goal is to have
success so you can pass on or share with others, you're off base.
It’s not about what they what they think you should do, either. If
you wanted to be an artist but ended up as an accountant because of
family influence, you can manifest changes. Make it about you. To
clear the lens that's so often clouded by the needs and desires of
others we care about, pretend you have $20 million in the bank. This
moves the money issues out of view. Now, what would you do? That's a
clue to what YOU want. And crazy as it sounds, clarity about your
heart's desire is the first step on the way toward true quality of
life, of which financial freedom is only one piece.
Step 3: Keep it Real. By this I mean keep what you want to manifest
in your life in very real, observable ways. Yes, this is a
metaphysical technique, but since we live in a physical world (part
time anyway), it's important to write down your goals. The place
them in easy view. I put mine on my computer screensaver. Don't
forget the refrigerator, your wallet, your bathroom mirror or closet
door. And as you end each day, ask yourself, "What have I done today
to manifest my destiny?" If you follow this step, at the very least,
you can honestly answer, "I kept my dream in sight." And that's big.
How many people do you know who get so caught up in the "stuff" of
their lives that they have no room to allow the purpose of their
lives? You don’t have to be one of those people. Focus. Make it
about you. Keep it Real. Give it time (yes, that pesky earth-based
system we must tolerate) and you'll find your life changing sooner
and in bigger, better ways than you might have imagined.
It all starts now—if you want it to.
Finding An Excuse to Love
by Steve Goodier
Some children just need more love." I don't know how many times I
heard Mrs. Tucker say that.
Mrs. Tucker was a 73-year-old woman who worked with me in an
after-school daycare program that paid me a much-needed stipend
while in graduate school. She rarely missed an opportunity to show
warmth and affection to a child.
That part time job was undoubtedly the most difficult position of my
life! I felt completely unprepared for the work; I had no training
and my temperament was such that it seemed all I could do to simply
not to “lose it” with the kids. Exacerbating the problem was the
fact that this after school program was operated by a church board
that believed that NO CHILD should be turned away. I applauded the
sentiment, but soon discovered that children who HAD been turned
away by other facilities in the city, primarily because of serious
behavioral problems, found their way to us.
I reminded myself that I was hired to watch the children, play with
them and lead arts and crafts -- not to fix them. And my only help
was Mrs. Tucker, a 73-year-old retired social worker who ran the
operation. All that stood between the kids and disaster was me and a
73-year-old woman! And I wasn’t a sturdy defense! But Mrs. Tucker
was.
“Some children just need more love,” she would always say. A case in
point was Timmy. This young boy received special help at school for
emotional problems. He was developmentally delayed, medicated enough
to be able to “hold it together” most of the time, and came to us
with a self esteem “lower than a snake’s belly” (to borrow a
southern American expression from the hills near Timmy's home). He
often fought with the other children and was a compulsive
hair-puller.
I couldn't get close to Timmy -- he did not trust anyone. Anyone,
that is, except Mrs. Tucker. He genuinely loved her and she loved
him. One day Timmy was screaming and fighting with one of the kids.
He had the boy on the ground and was pulling his hair with both
fists. I separated them and Mrs. Tucker directed Timmy to sit down
in a chair. He thought it was unfair that he, and not the other
child, should be punished for fighting. He screamed, “I HATE YOU,
Mrs. Tucker! You’re a mean, old lady! I hate you!”
“I know you hate me right now, Timmy,” she said firmly, “but I’m
sure not going to let you pull the other children’s hair.” After a
while, Timmy calmed down and Mrs. Tucker called him over. His cheeks
were still dirty and tear-streaked. I could not hear their
conversation, but I saw Timmy put his arms around her neck. When I
walked by I heard him say softly, “I’m sorry I called you a mean old
lady, Mrs. Tucker.” I knew he meant it.
A little later Mrs. Tucker said to me, “Timmy just needs more love
than the other children.” And she was right.
The Bible says, "There is a time to love and a time to hate." I've
learned that our world will readily give us an excuse to hate. We
will always have a good reason to dislike that difficult person,
that political party, that religious group…. But will you find an
excuse to love? It changes the world.
Most any excuse will do.
