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Over the years, I have found that readings are a combination of pure intuition, psychological reflection of the Querent's feelings on the subject, listening skills, and compassionate dialogue. When people come to us for a "reading," sometimes all they really want is someone to listen to them and assure them that they are capable of making the right decision on their own. In any reading, even a purely intuitive one, you are often telling a person about their own personality traits and psychological make-up, as a way of offering insight into their situation. Therefore, there is always a very blurred line between “psychic” and “psychology,” and I believe you cannot truly separate the two. It is true that a reading should contain more intuitive insight than motherly advice. It is not intended to be a "Dear Abby" column, and Readers should refrain from offering personal advice if that advice is not intuitively-derived. We all have our personal opinions based on beliefs and experiences we've had, and we should refrain from giving advice based on our opinions. Instead, we should look at the situation as neutrally as possible, intuitively deduce the likely paths and outcomes, and advise the Querent of those paths and outcomes. We should not tell the Querent what to do; instead, we show them the insights we have received, and empower them to make their own decision. Let me give you an example which may illustrate the difference: A young woman asks for a reading, indicating that she's doing terribly in college, and that she's afraid to tell her parents. She wonders if college was the right choice or perhaps she should have gotten a job right out of high school. Here are two "readings," one that is really a reading, one that is really an advice column: READING: “I sense that you are not getting good grades because you fear what comes after college. I sense that your fear is that if you get good grades, you will have to repeat this high performance in the work world. When I look into your past behavior patterns, I see scenes where this has fear has stopped you from truly expressing your intellectual gifts. Take time to look at your pattern for self-sabotage and self-confidence issues. In addition, I sense that you are having difficulty understanding the strong foreign accent of your Economics teacher, but are afraid of bringing this to the attention of the school for fear of being labeled ‘racist’. You are not the only person who is having difficulty understanding this knowledgeable professor.” ADVICE/PSYCHOLOGICAL REFLECTION: “I can understand how you would be concerned. The decision to go to college versus working is always a hard one. However, you are in college now and you need to handle the situation you are in before you move forward with what you want to do with your life. You should tell your parents the truth about your college grades and you should determine why you aren’t getting good grades.” In the Reading, the discussion is about the Querent’s fear. It does not tell the Querent what to DO. In the second example, the discussion focuses on reflecting back what the Querent said, and gives advice about how the Querent “should” think and act. ===== Karyn Greenstreet is a Life and Business Coach. She helps self-employed people create and grow their business, stay focused and motivated, and create a balanced life. Visit Karyn's website at Passion For Business, small business coaching and consulting for the self employed.. |
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